First of all I am really not a big believer in marriage so when I say married to ,I mean in the sense of who I am going to settle down with, have kids, let share my world and space. I’ve never witnessed a real true functioning relationship in my 23 years of living on earth. What I’ve learnt is you don’t need paper to prove you love to someone, I’ve attended countless weddings where I’ve witnessed the bride and groom make each other promises in front of family and friends, but this didn’t stop anyone from cheating, falling out of love, changing etc. Because, yes people do change just like the seasons, so why can’t their feelings change too?
Conversations With God Book 3[i] on marriage says “Marriage - An artificial social construction designed to govern each other's behavior……Marriage lowers your love to the level of a promise or a guarantee......You should know that YOUR love is bigger than that!” I agree with this assertion.
And honestly I do believe my love is bigger than that, it’s not some playground pact where you and I make pinky swear promise? Anyway, the other day I was having a chat with some of my friends and the topic of men I would never want to marry came up. One of my friends said something along the lines of “Yikes that’s a long list WHO are you going to end up with?” Here’s my suggested list:
A Soldier that’s seen action – that’s because I was watching “Homeland” and I thought to myself Yikes I don’t think I could be with a man that’s seen so much and can’t talk to me about it. I’ll forever be a part time psychologist….I’m selfish I know! LOL
A Musician – With a musician it’s kind of the obvious stuff groupies, groupies and groupies and on top of all that. Well…….. I’ll always have to be his part time cheerleader when the glory & groupies die down or disappear. *sigh*
A Businessman – This species of man is never around he’ll always be busy trying to uphold his empire from crashing down around him, therefore he’ll never have time to uphold our relationship cause come on - a man cannot serve two masters right? Oh & I’ll always feel like somewhat of a “trophy wife”
A man with no ambition……I just couldn’t deal with that, with every relationship be it friendship or any other, each person needs to have they’re thing they love and are good at separate from their spouse. You NEED your “thing”
An Artiste – Im an artist myself I tend to go into bouts of deep depression when a design or whimsical idea doesn’t go as planned so imagine two similar people in a relationship? That Would be something for the reality TV crews lol
I could have gone on to number 200 until I thought to myself Tanya, WHAT YOU RESIST PERSISTS, whatever happens , happens and the universe has a funny way of doing things. So let me just sit back and see what the universe pairs me up with. If something is meant to be, it will happen – at the right time, with the right person, and for the best reasons.
As with all things of the heart, there is an ingredient of magic in finding love. There are no coincidences. Everything happens for a reason. Love is beautiful and unpredictable. The best thing you can do is to start to become the most outstanding person possible. The universe will know when you are ready, and when you are, true love will happen, unexpectedly.
